Dear Second child,
Your dad is this middle child, and he sometimes fits the stereotype of the second child. (And I say that with love and laughter) I write to you today to share that being second in line actually has some perks. You may find yourself wanting to say “but Reagan gets” or “You did this or that for Reagan” or “Reagan had…” Let me take a moment and share some advantages of your pecking order:
1. When I was pregnant with Reagan, I was scared and anxious. I didn’t know if I could be a good mommy. I worried a lot. But with you cooking inside, I feel so much more able. My worry has turned to joy, my fear has turned to excitement.
2. I feel like I get to know you better in my womb. For example, I started feeling you flutter about in my belly at a mere 16 weeks. You see, when I was pregnant with Reagan I had no idea what the first kicks or moves felt like. I didn’t know if it was a baby moving or my lunch disagreeing with my stomach. But with you, I knew at your first move, that it was you! At week 17 I distinctively felt you move across your chambers. You pushed against my hand that I had laying on my belly. It was faint, but I knew it was you! So special!
3. You and I have a date every night around 11pm. You dance about. I pray for you. I imagine what you’re going to look like. I tear up thinking that you are our gift. As a second child, I have quiet moments to reflect on you, not stress about me like I did the first go around.
4. As the second born, you get all the love and attention from Reagan. She wants to meet you and love on you. And I pray that you will be each other’s best friend.
You see, being the second child does have some advantages! You are over 18 weeks old now and growing fast. I get to see you for the first time next week.
We love you!